Category: Dating and Relationships
What are your standards when bringing home a boyfriend or a girlfriend to meet your parents? What makes you hesitant to bring him or her to meet your family? When you’re dating or are in a relationship, how long do you wait before you introduce the person to your family and friends? What makes you think that this person is worth it or not to meet the people in your life?
Hmmm interesting question. First the person must be somewhat intellegent, and clean. No one is perfect, but you want them to be able to meet people without being a complete jerk. As far as time, I think that just happens, when your ready, you just feel it. Can you say that person will be around forever, NO! But you just no when its right to bring them to meet your family.
I personally always asked my girlfriends if they were ready to meet the family and would discuss it with them. Just my thoughts.
If I can't bring them to meet the family, I won't even date them.
i agree with the previous poster. introducing the your family and visa versa shouldn't be a big deal. if it is, then that might be something of concern. a
Honestly, my parents have never met most of the people I've dated, but that's partially due to me living a good ways away. That being said however, my parents and I hold somepretty different views on things, so I'm not necessarily expecting those that I date to meet with their approval. If they do, great, but I'm not really holding my breath. So I guess maybe my standard would be that they'e willing to realize that they might not get along with my parents?
I definitely agree with poster 3. There are some situations in which your family or your friends may not like the person that your going out with, but at least you took the time to let them know who your with. Meeting the family members of the person shouldn't be a big deal because your proud of the person your with and you want everyone to know your with that person. Hiding your relationship won't do you any good. If for some reason you feel like your not ready yet or you have some doubts in your mind that your partner may not like your parents or vice verse, it does not matter because at least you took the time to let them know whats going on. Its about being honest and showing respect to those people that care about you. Of course, it would take some time before you decide to introduce the person, but its better late than never. It just doesn't look right if you dated someone for a long time and they never meet your folks.
Hiding a relationship I agree isn't right. But honestly, what matters most is if you and the person you're dating are happy together. Approval from others doesn't make it the right person for you or vice versa.
Yup, thats why it shouldn't be a big deal when your introducing your partner to your folks. Your not asking for approval, your just letting them know who your with.
Well, I usually wait a few weeks before I meet anyone. However, once I do, my mother always meets him, just to make sure I'm safe etc. Grandma doesn't right away cause my sexual life doesn't concern her. But if he comes several times and runs into her, of course, I introduce him. Usually, she knows what's up. The only standards I really have are that I'm comfortable with the person enough to allow them into my home and to be with him alone. for me, the question is my standards for actually going out of the house with someone. I have to really trust him, to know he won't hurt me and that he'll watch out for me if necessary. Once I feel those are met, we can go out. As far as introducing him to my friends, not that many are actually local etc, he'd need to be more than an fwb i.e. more than friend and sex partner. Once I really feel that we're an item, I can introduce him to my friends as my bf.
What is this relationship concept you speak of? I thought casual unfofilling depressing sex was the normal state of things between members of the opposite sex?
The standards my usual set and time, now as I have said before, that all depends on the person in question. We can't say the same for anyone, so specific people has a set amount of time.